(11-29-2015, 01:37 AM)Charon Wrote: (admin of steel won't kill me cuz he knows this is what family does.  it rings very true.  she needs us now. and, because both admin and i won't fall for something like this again.  Not again.  It is just an honorable act which means so much to rose5. )

(11-29-2015, 09:10 AM)ADMIN OF STEEL Wrote:

(11-29-2015, 08:27 AM)Rose5555 Wrote:

(11-29-2015, 02:40 AM)Linville Wrote: I am glad to see there is the human side of rules too, and I also understand that it is not unlimited or to be taken advantage of.

A member in need and maybe is what it takes to be forever grateful and a good part of what happens here. A chance is a good thing.

I am just glad to see a second chance. I have been grateful for that at times and I always try to do right by them. I hope it is that way here.

Rose5555 please use this second chance to make it right and do what Charon asks. Show her it mattered to you. 
I know you can by the posts in this thread.

I hope so for you.

Thank you so much Charon for your kindness. I went to bed crying last night. And I couldn't sleep for ages so I feel exhausted this morning. You're right, some of what had upset me was due to what has happened to me. It has been a really rough time as you might imagine and on top of it all, things are not easy in my life in general. I am indeed happy to be home with my sons. That's what counts in the end.  I am very grateful for your kind act and to be honest, I did not expect it in the least, and it came as a lovely surprise this morning.  I wouldn't abuse an act of kindness ever, it is that simple. 
So I will try to get the required posts done but I really was trying to be sincere, thoughtful and kind in everything I wrote, rather than just put random posts on to make up the count.  I had contributed at length in sections that really touched my own life - migraine, sleep and anxiety being the key ones - and also sent messages of support to other members who wrote about their own difficulties.  I was trying to achieve quality in everything I offered while staying true to who I am. I would genuinely hope that this is what you would want of your members rather than a simple quantity of posts.  Anyone can achieve 50 posts in 45 days if what they write has little value but I suspect it is a lot harder when a lot of what you write comes laden with feelings and is painful to share. There are still things I haven't shared, like the cancer, because I just cannot write about them yet.  I cannot write about anxiety or sleep disorder without feeling sad for the person I was when I was suffering from them, especially as I still have anxiety problems and migraine today. So this is why I find myself a bit conflicted this morning as I do still feel that my previous offerings were just not good enough for this site as they were, even though they were personal and emotional. That does really hurt me.  And it did occur to me that perhaps it might be a good idea when you are pruning members who haven't made the total if, before doing so, you read the posts themselves and see what they have brought to the site. My posts would have displayed most of what you needed to know about who I am and there should have been no suspicion that I was a "spy". And I was proud of the number of "helpful" votes I had gathered for what I had written because they told me that someone, somewhere, had found something in what I offered which might be of use to them, which is one of the main reasons I am here. Now given everything that has happened, I do not know when I will be able to find the strength to write them again. Anyway, this is just an idea and I hope it won't be taken badly, especially given the generosity shown to me here.  It is written from the heart, as I say. 
Anyway, I am going to stop here. I remain deeply grateful, and yet again, for the third time, to Charon.  It is lovely to have you in my family.   And thank you, Linville, for your kind words too. I am happy to have my family back.

Dear Rose, Members get automatically purged by the system if they don't post within 45 days. Whether its a Newbie or a Most Senior Member. Apologies, If that hurt any of your sentiments. We are a family here. And we will always welcome you to be a part of this family. I have been in state of shock for the last 2 days because it was at night when i talked with a friend and in the morning he was no more. He passed away in the morning. For the last 2 days i have been like a rock moderating the forum without any feeling. All my attention is towards the reality of life. We are mere puppets serving our minor role in this world. No one knows who's next. I should say all my warm wishes to you. Please get well soon. We have Charon here, Who is an ideal personality for many including me. She would hold your hand when no one is around like she held mine when i needed her the most. This forum belongs to our highly beloved Charon. I consider my self nothing more than a mere servant here. We are moving slowly though but steadily. I hope you understand that is why we take extra precautions to make sure we don't promote any member to a senior one if he/she's gonna turn rogue in the end. We had a few bad results already. You are no doubt a wonderful person. Please make tears the Water for your morning Tea and sip them up. Be strong. Love you lots.

(11-29-2015, 09:21 AM)IceWizard Wrote: Roses5555...

It is awful what you've gone through.. I cannot even imagine... Please accept my deepest sympanthies in your disstressful time... We are here for you and never want you to feel like you were singled out...

That rule was just for lurkers, of which your actions do not fit... I feel so bad for you my dear... If I can help you in any way, I'll gladly dofor you... You are among a family here and we want you to be a part of it... We'd be proud to say you are one of us!!

With love and respect..

Ice

(11-29-2015, 02:51 PM)FirePlaces Wrote: Rose555, I am glad you are back with us.  Yes, it was an automatic system function that deleted your account.  Not personal at all. Automating some decisions such as deleting accounts that have been dormant for 45 days reduces the work load for Admin, Char, and Ice.  

Running a forum, vetting members, etc can be too much work and so some jobs are handled by the software.  I am so glad you were able to get back in, and more glad that our most kind and loving management listed, understood, and got you set up again!

So now you need 50 posts in 45 days to become a vested member in a manner of speaking.  After that only 1 post every 45 days will be enough to keep you active.

Unfortunately the system can not tell the difference between a long heartfelt post and a short one.  I do understand your thinking there, but the software rule does not.  

There are many on-topic threads/areas in which you could post info on those topics you mentioned discussing before.  Easiest way to find them is to look at the boards main menu.  Basically if the thread is not in the off topic subforum, it is on topic.  The Medical Discussion subforum is a popular one for on topic posts not directly related to IOPs.

Look forward to getting to know you a bit.

Hope your recovery is going as well as can be expected.

Sincerely,

Fire ;-)

(11-29-2015, 08:55 PM)snappy71 Wrote: dear rose5555....my sympathies for the pain and suffering you are experiencing....I send you positive and healing thoughts to you from me and offer my support as another friend who is there for you....my very best for a quick recovery and feel free to reach out if I can be of any help to you whatsoever.   be well my friend