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[LilRaquel]

Zilla,
I feel Ya too. I was recently divorced from my partner I was with almost a decade. We were together for 7 years, then married. Divorced 2 years later. Looking back the marriage was done as attempt to save a relationship and I was being told constantly by people, you need to marry him.
After the divorce, I was happily single again. I never had kids, no strings it was great. However. I am now 35 and have started to come to the conclusion I may never have my own family. Despite the divorce being almost a year done, I am now just starting to feel heavy.

I have no chipper answer here. Just the advice to live your life with gratitude for friends and family that love you no matter what. Also, focus on yourself and who you are, Nothing to lose there.

I just think I identify with the malaise as we have the simple age range. Well, men have a bit longer. But I'm facing down a barrel that nieces and nephews are the closest I will have to human children. So I'm spoiling the hell out of them so they can look after me when I'm old and alone.

Just focus on #1 and be well
peace,
Lil-R

[Goyakla1]

Just take Care of urself and let time go... And do get some sleep.. The World is Hell if u dont.. And imo let her be..ull only make things worse for urself if u want frienship pt.. Im takling with a lot of experince on my back.

[Chickenzilla]

Thank you guys so much for your words.. They are medicine to me. almost a cure! They help a lot.. I have a lot of "if i only, did this or that" on my mind a lot.. I feel like a lunatic for trying to contact my ex gf after 6 years..

I thought about it a lot.. is it me causing it or is it actually high proportion of coincidental happenings.. The answering is coincidence.. Yes of course I create situations unintentionally that end up hurting..

I often wish I was in Physical pain instead ( not so I could get high ) because at least I might have some control over that..

Again thank you for your PM's I will get back to every one of you in a week or two, because I want to see how things go and give and update.. Thank you for taking time out of your day for writing to me..I would post a picture of myself and you'd say,, no way, not that guy... But its hidden in the best of  us.  

Not to degrade but at least I'm not pushing a shopping cart around with my stuff. I could be worse off... So I'm truly humble in that regard.  Thanks again.. If anyone has any questions you can post them.. I might have some good advice! - Be well!

[Popster]

Regret, sorrow, guilt and remorse are all about the past......which no longer exists and detracts from being in the moment.

Fear, worry and anxiety are about the future........and also detracts from being in the moment.

Let go of both to find true happiness.

Changing the past is not possible.....it is the compost for your future. Garbage becomes roses, fruit and flowers....this is your right.....but only if you accept it........be glad for your lessons learned....they bring a brighter future if you allow it to be.

your thoughts and "plight" are common to us all.....it is part of our dilemma on this earth to suffer.......none of us escapes this.

Let go of the past by learning from it, smile at it, embrace it and move on.......no need to hang your hat there.

Happiness is within reach....but you have to reach in front of you...not behind you.....just my 2¢

[Goyakla1]

Totally agree with Popster.. Dont beat urself..there is allways to sides to a problem., especially love.
Try to Forget her..do something to make u Feeling better..run, Walk, talk to
Friends or family.. It Will take time but Ansv most of us know ull get over it. But for the love of god stay away from her. Clean cut has allways worked for me. No phones etc etc..just take Care of u

[IceWizard]

Regret, sorrow, guilt and remorse are all about the past......which no longer exists and detracts from being in the moment.

Fear, worry and anxiety are about the future........and also detracts from being in the moment.

Let go of both to find true happiness.

Changing the past is not possible.....it is the compost for your future. Garbage becomes roses, fruit and flowers....this is your right.....but only if you accept it........be glad for your lessons learned....they bring a brighter future if you allow it to be.

your thoughts and "plight" are common to us all.....it is part of our dilemma on this earth to suffer.......none of us escapes this.

Let go of the past by learning from it, smile at it, embrace it and move on.......no need to hang your hat there.

Happiness is within reach....but you have to reach in front of you...not behind you.....just my 2¢

This is the best solution... Everyone of us can use this advise... Thanks Popster

Ice

[Slick]

Chickenzilla - don't be sad!!!
One of my favorite sayings:

Memories my friend!!!!!!

[Goyakla1]

A very wise man once Said " What does NOT kill you makes you stronger " i allways have that in mind
When things are rough.

[Chickenzilla]

Last night I held my head in my hands for 30 min about and held back tears.. I can't bring myself to cry but I could if I let the flood gates open.  I wish I could post a picture of myself here so you guys could see me.. 

Can I not cry because there's a man in men? Only girls have the power to make me cry on the spot..


Anyone else? Stories? Or just whatever.. It was odd because I hasn't done that in years.

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Regret, sorrow, guilt and remorse are all about the past......which no longer exists and detracts from being in the moment.

Fear, worry and anxiety are about the future........and also detracts from being in the moment.

Let go of both to find true happiness.

Changing the past is not possible.....it is the compost for your future.  Garbage becomes roses, fruit and flowers....this is your right.....but only if you accept it........be glad for your lessons learned....they bring a brighter future if you allow it to be.

your thoughts and "plight" are common to us all.....it is part of our dilemma on this earth to suffer.......none of us escapes this.

Let go of the past by learning from it, smile at it, embrace it and move on.......no need to hang your hat there.

Happiness is within reach....but you have to reach in front of you...not behind you.....just my 2¢

If that's just your 2 cents Popster, I can only imagine what you could do with a dollar...

Truly an awesome post Popster....love your work mate.

I can't. I'm weak.I need a dog or something to be my friend and I grow stronger.. I'm so fucking alone it's .. I just wish I ...ugh..I know it's common but I've had it worse, and others have had it much worse but still.. Maybe I really should try to get a dog.

[barq2]

Last night I held my head in my hands for 30 min about and held back tears.. I can't bring myself to cry but I could if I let the flood gates open.  I wish I could post a picture of myself here so you guys could see me.. 

Can I not cry because there's a man in men? Only girls have the power to make me cry on the spot..


Anyone else? Stories? Or just whatever.. It was odd because I hasn't done that in years.

I'm sorry Chickenzilla, that sounds horrible. At times I have felt the same way - lonely, needing to cry, but feeling blocked and unable to release it.
I can cry, but generally about trivial things. To my eternal shame I wept like a baby when I took my niece to see High School Musical 3 - I'm not sure if I'm more ashamed of seeing the film, or crying! ;-) I cried when David Bowie died. But I didnt cry when a friend died a few months ago. Weird isn't it?
I think as men we are socialised into not showing certain emotions. You aren't alone in this.