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Telling people about being in "Recovery"
#1
Wondered if anyone else had any thoughts about this.  I don't find it very intimidating telling people about being sober or going to rehab, much to the chagrin of my loved ones.  They try to be supportive, but I can definitely tell for my mom that it's a struggle not to view it as something to be shameful about.  I talked about it this morning in my acting for non-major's class in a discussion about motivations and how to call up different emotions and it really got me thinking about how everyone else that's in recovery feels about this. So please, pretend this is an AA or NA meeting and share lol!
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#2
(01-22-2016, 12:04 AM)laizerfiest 2.0 Wrote: Wondered if anyone else had any thoughts about this.  I don't find it very intimidating telling people about being sober or going to rehab, much to the chagrin of my loved ones.  They try to be supportive, but I can definitely tell for my mom that it's a struggle not to view it as something to be shameful about.  I talked about it this morning in my acting for non-major's class in a discussion about motivations and how to call up different emotions and it really got me thinking about how everyone else that's in recovery feels about this. So please, pretend this is an AA or NA meeting and share lol!

Very good topic because I have someone come through the healthcare facility with an arm bandaged up. I saw and knew what she did but her mother next to her didn't know. I asked if she tried injecting she told me someone did it for her it got infected she went to the ER the doc said "oh she's an addict just give fluids and send her on she'll use again". Well I realized addicts are looked down upon and this is no different then looking at skin color to a point. This person cried and told me she was embarrassed and had know idea what to do? I guess my point is yes, laizerfiest recovering addicts are humbled people because it is hard tell someone. My other problems too is just because we are not jabbing a vein, inhaling etc. does not mean children are getting hooked on games, people on porn, food addiction, many many lucrative addictions apply to us that isn't so publicized. ALL of us have some vice! Stay clean, and kudos to you!
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#3
Personally on the street i don't give a fart in a windstorm. I do however work in the corporate world, so there i keep the knowledge limited to A. Those who are *down*
And B. Those who are aware of my personnel file and the rehabs and detoxes
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#4
I'm more secretive than I'd like to be due to my career being moderately high profile. My colleagues and employer would be supportive on their terms - so not unsympathetic, but also not quite what I need. I wouldn't lose my job, but many of the responsibilities and things I find rewarding would be taken away. My job is a massive part of my social identity and so I'm very reluctant to rock the boat.

I use places like this precisely because I can be honest. The only thing I have to hide on here is my real name. It isn't so much that I don't trust people on the forum, but information leaks out - especially anything that can be Googled. I use a forum like this far more for social reasons and because so many of us have shared experiences, rather than simply to source medication.

In the Venn diagram of my social life, certain circles can never overlap. I'm sure other people must have similar experiences. After all, that's partly the point of AA etc!
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#5
Yeah imagine the nightmare of tracking a letter- one of OUR letters- and seeing it out for delivery in the city you work. Worse you are in a 22 floor building that x rays all incoming mail. What do you do? Act like you did nothing wrong, borderline cocky- they will be off guard. Make sure you are good at your job and your bosses would rather see you medicated and happy than sober and fucking up. Update your resume cuz you just ran out of last chance s
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#6
I only share with who i trust and i wouldn't trust any boss i worked for in the past,they were all runts(being polite there).
I dont bother with NA/AA cos in reality you aint anon at all,got a mate who never shuts up about NA,even wears a baseball hat,with NA on the front,cracks me up that.
I don't mind talking about some things online cos that is a bit more anon than those other 2 groups.
I'd rather be addicted to something that helps my life less painful than be addicted to war and money anyday.I aint responsible for none of the bad shit being done,might even let me into heaven,i know for sure all those war addicts will be stoking the furnaces not me,had enough of back breaking shovelling in my life thanks.
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#7
Tommygun you hit the nail on the head. One of the founding fathers intended freedoms was the right to ingest what you want. Its common knowledge now that T Jefferson smoked hemp, and George Washington grew it at the very least
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#8
Englands old Queen Victoria was out of her head on all sorts of hard narcotics,a seriously bad drug user yet was queen of an oppressive thieving empire.She wanted them poppy fields all for herself.
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#9
(02-10-2016, 10:57 PM)BoomerB Wrote: Tommygun you hit the nail on the head. One of the founding fathers intended freedoms was the right to ingest what you want. Its common knowledge now that T Jefferson smoked hemp, and George Washington grew it at the very least

yes it is so messed uo and backwards , why do you think we all are here? same reasons, we all have something in common in life and its not iops and I believe that
your only as old as the last time you changed your mind !
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#10
NA people are the worst. Other than AA cuz they somehow think they're better. Lets see, i pawned my coin collection to cop vs i blacked out and killed a family of 4 driving on the wrong side of the highway. I hate "drug ppl" (ok peanut gallery i mean specific type of drug people- the ones who always have to top your story, lie so much that u hear 6 versions of 1 story over 10 days in the methadone line, always got the answer and will argue till death rather than admit they are wrong, and worst of all always want a cig... Basically someone who would never find this site). One of these people told me today with total faith that "all mail order benzos are fake right now". I happily sucked a Clonotril right in front of his sick ass. I'm sorry, I always worked to support my drug use so i have extreme issues with people who cash in foodstamps and hustle (in ways that hurt others. Collecting sxrap metals a hustle but not a hustle " run on" someone) My clon is fake? Gee thanks for the heads up call me in an hour if you need a tissue. Stupidity is forgivable, even something to help with, but ignorance... Is a quality posessed by those who deserve it. But AA/NA becomes the drug. People can't function without a meeting a day. And back to prejudice, the NA group refuses to recognize a successful methadone client as clean. I tried to come off it, slow tapered a year, and a year after i stopped was still sick... At that point i just realized it will be a life sentence and signed back up.
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